Setting small goals and realistic expectations during this process can help avoid frustration.  Trying some of these gentle techniques can help you decide if it's the right time to wean or if postponing that journey is a better option for you and your child.  Following your baby's cues will be your best guide in helping you navigate your next step.  Gentle weaning is recommended over quitting cold turkey as abruptly stopping the removal of your breastmilk can put you at risk for clogs and mastitis as well as take an emotional toll on your baby.
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The first step is to not offer the breast, but not refuse it either.  This will be a good way to gage if your child is willing to fill that time with other distractions or food.  If that technique works (even if it's sporadic) then you can focus on dropping one nursing session at a time.  You'll want to nurse less and less time during that targeted session until that session is completely eliminated.  Try not to rush or eliminate too many sessions in a short amount of time.  Give yourself a week per session dropped to ensure your body will regulate your supply down to the new demand without engorgement or discomfort present.  Once you have eliminated the one feeding without feeling discomfort or fullness then you can move on to the next one.  If you are an exclusive pumper, you'll want to follow the same guidelines and dropping one pumping session at a time.  Bedtime and naptime sessions are usually the last to go.
 
​If your breasts feel full or uncomfortable hand expression is recommended to help find relief.  If you choose to pump instead, try not to fully empty the breast out as your body works off supply and demand.  ​The less milk you remove the quicker your body will realize the demand has gone down and lower your supply.
 
It's best to have distractions planned ahead of time before your child expresses the need to nurse when trying to wean gently.  These distractions can include offering a sippy cup, snacks, toys, reading a book, going on a walk, taking a bath, coloring, etc.  Going for a car ride or to the store is also a great distraction and can help avoid familiar nursing triggers like their favorite blanket or rocking chair.  Wearing tops that are less accessible for nursing can also be beneficial.
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If you must stop for medical or unforeseen reasons it's best to switch to pumping if possible in order to lessen your supply without your child's help.  You can try birth control with estrogen, peppermint or menthol teas, cabbage leaves in your bra, or decongestants to help dry up your supply faster.

Be prepared to postpone weaning if your child is teething, going through a mental leap or growth spurt, sick, or fussy.

It may take some mothers longer than others, but remember there's no perfect time frame or rule book for weaning.  It's best to follow your child's needs, follow your heart, and remember this is only a small window in time.  If you or your child are having difficulties weaning, it may not be the right time.  Take a break, and try again at another time.